We See You. You matter.

We See You. You matter.

Military Spouse Life
Usually when one thinks of domestic violence awareness it is in the prism of statistics and numbers, how many are being affected and the capacity of scale. Today, I would like to address the people who are affected by domestic violence and abuse. There are more people impacted by domestic violence in the military community, and the world, than we will ever really be able to know. If you are being targeted by an abuser, I want you to know that you matter, and we see you. (more…)
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Dear Future Friend, I Love You, But I Don’t Want To Be Your Friend Yet

Dear Future Friend, I Love You, But I Don’t Want To Be Your Friend Yet

Military Spouse Life, PCSing
Living life as a military spouse has its rewards and its drawbacks like any other lifestyle, and the one I have to admit I have the most trouble with is meeting new people, and not for the reason you may think.  Not because I am afraid I won’t make friends or I will have to start a new life with new people. For the most part I have kept my same friends over the years, and I have added new friends as we moved from one duty station to another.  (more…)
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Coast Guard Girlfriend To Navy Wife Love Story

Coast Guard Girlfriend To Navy Wife Love Story

Military Spouse Life
I am a formal Coast Guard GF of 2 years and a current Navy Wife of 7 years. I consider myself a master packer, an expert at finding my tribe quickly and a tiny human tamer with my four little ones. I feel strongly that I became a military spouse in order to help others because it was not in my original "plans". But then again, that's basically how military life is! I met my husband in 2004. He was stationed in my home town of Memphis, Tennessee, in the Coast Guard and we went to church together. I had never really interacted with military members growing up, so I was a complete newbie to everything. He was tall, dark and handsome and so quiet. I actually thought he hated…
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My Memory of September 11, 2001

My Memory of September 11, 2001

Military Spouse Life
It's been 19 years since September 11 happened. The day of watching not one, but two planes collide into The World Trade Center in New York City. Another plane hit the Pentagon, and reports flooded in about a plane going down in a field in Pennsylvania. That was four planes. What was going on? I felt like I was stuck in a movie. And I was not too fond of the plot one bit. (more…)
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I Am Not Okay

I Am Not Okay

Military Spouse Life
Originally published to Milspouse Conversations - 11/25/19 Let me tell you all a secret about me- although I am usually Little Ms. Sunshine, sometimes that's a front. I married very young. My husband and I were high school sweethearts from Podunk Town, Mississippi. He wanted to join the Navy, and because that was his dream, I eagerly followed. I had no idea what military life entailed. No one close to me had ever served. Hell, I thought that (one of my all-time favorite movies) Top Gun, was the Air Force because of the pilots. I simply assumed that if you flew a plane you were in the Air Force. That's how green I was. I've held it together through most of the years. Many moves, babies, promotions, deaths, and deployments…
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4 Simple Self-Care Practices for MILSOs to Start Off the New Year

4 Simple Self-Care Practices for MILSOs to Start Off the New Year

Military Spouse Life
This article was originally published January 2020. Military Spouse Life Military life is not for the faint of heart. Moving every 18 months-3 years on average means starting over. Finding new friends, service providers, activities, schools, church just to name a few can cause even the most seasoned spouse to put themselves on the back burner. Deployments, workups, on-call schedules, and the unpredictability of their spouse's work also come into play. There is added pressure of being both mother and father to their children while that parent is gone. (more…)
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Being Beautifully Imperfect

Being Beautifully Imperfect

Military Spouse Life
Originally posted on Milspouse Conversations in 2019 Hello! My name is Annette and I am a 44-year-old female. I am a mother to a 19-year-old daughter who is a sophomore in college and a 16-year-old son who is a high school junior.  I am also a military spouse of over 21 years and a Retired Army Disabled Combat Veteran. Long title right? Well, it does not define me but it helps when I share my story… (more…)
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From Hopelessness to Activism

From Hopelessness to Activism

Military Spouse Life
Right now, the country is facing some unprecedented struggles: with the COVID-19 pandemic, the highest unemployment rates we’ve ever seen, as well as the old sins of racism and genocide being reckoned with once again. It feels overwhelming to so many of us. We want to help, we want to make things better, we want to DO something -- but so often military spouses feel that our hands are tied because we never live in one community for long, and aren’t there rules about this sort of thing anyway? (more…)
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Military Move – 4 Things To Consider When PCSing

Military Move – 4 Things To Consider When PCSing

Military Spouse Life, Uncategorized
  Being in the military can be an amazing and adventurous journey, but it can also be tough and scary. Let's face it. It can be an emotional rollercoaster that few people truly understand. Many times, during a PCS, the military member is bound to their duty to serve while the spouse hates the new location. The children don't want to move; they don't want to start over and have to make new friends—they like their old friends just fine.  (more…)
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