How To Be The Perfect Military Spouse

How To Be The Perfect Military Spouse

Being a perfect military spouse isn't about knowing every acronym associated with the military or recognizing every insignia on a military member's uniform. It isn't even about volunteering, attending or participating in every function for your spouse's command. But being the PERFECT Military Spouse is about YOU and your military member. Thee Conversation Starters share some of their best tips to help you. Don't forget about YOU Don't lose your identity as you embark on this adventure. You are YOU first and always. You married a military member and that brings a unique lifestyle, but you MUST always remember who…
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A Stress-Free Holiday for the Military Spouse

A Stress-Free Holiday for the Military Spouse

The holidays. They are a time for coming together and giving thanks for all the blessings we have. They are a time for us to gather with family and friends and share in the many traditions that accompany this magical time of year. But what happens when the point of it all gets lost in the stress and the chaos that often comes before the celebrations? When we lose ourselves and the meaning of the holidays because of this impossible expectation for everything to be perfect?  As military spouses, the holidays often mean either going back home to spend time…
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Where Are You Originally From?

Where Are You Originally From?

Where are you originally from? I have been asked many times by the non-hispanic community, “Where are you originally from?” If I answer with a state I am quickly interrupted by, “No, ORIGINALLY like what country are you from?” If you can picture the attitude-driven phrase “excuse me” as a facial expression, that’s exactly what my face looked like. I of course respond with, “The United States just like you.” It baffles me anytime I am asked that question and it turns out by one look people either assume I am from Mexico or am Native American. Personally, I think…
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Everyone Needs and Deserves Self-Care

Everyone Needs and Deserves Self-Care

Everyone needs and deserves self-care. If you may not know, self-care is "the process of taking care of oneself with behaviors that promote health.” So how would you as a person take time to care for yourself? Well, what I do is: Take time to exercise, usually in the evenings so it’s not too hot. Getting regular exercise boosts your mood and improves your health. Making sleep my priority is another thing I like to do. Getting enough sleep the previous night will guarantee a better day. Waking up from a good night's rest to eating a healthy morning breakfast…
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Why Setting Boundaries Is So Important

Why Setting Boundaries Is So Important

As a young girl, I spent many Saturdays going to Philly with my mom. We didn’t do the typical sightseeing or visit the many museums that this amazing city had to offer. Instead, we visited my grandmother, who, by the time I was school-aged, was a widow living in an assisted living apartment complex on the outskirts of the northeast quadrant of town.  We’d go into the apartment and no sooner as I had turned on the television did my mom and her mom get to arguing. My mom would ask why the apartment was as junky as it was…
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Life as a Skinny Girl

Life as a Skinny Girl

Life as a skinny girl is hard. Especially in the world today. I get many comments saying, “I wish I was that skinny. “I wish I didn’t gain weight like YOU after I eat. “I wish I had the same body as you.” It seems all nice, but to me, it’s not. All I can think of is the bad side of being skinny. “Eat more.” “You’re a walking stick.” “I can see your bones.”  Growing up, I loved being skinny. I dreamed of being a model. When I mentioned my dream to others, they would agree that I had…
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It’s Time For a New School Year

When I think about having to start over again at a new school, I’m reminded of Riley from Inside Out. This movie is a must-see for everyone, especially military families. It tells the story of a young girl whose parents up and move from her beloved Minnesota to strange San Francisco all from the perspective of five main emotions- Joy, Sadness, Anger, Fear, and Disgust.  Joy does everything she can to keep Riley happy all the time, and while trying to deal with the move, she banishes Sadness, and herself, from Riley's consciousness leaving Anger, Fear, and Disgust in control…
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All About Little, Old Me

All About Little, Old Me

Short, little, petite, itty-bitty, small, pint-sized, sprite, tiny. My mom promised me I’d be at least 5’4. Surely, she believed, I’d be a good mix of both her and my father and end up right in the middle. Besides, her brother was tall, and her mother-in-law was tall.  So, there was no doubt, that some of those genes would rub off on me, right? Wrong.  As a kid, I was an average size, the average being that everyone else around me was the same size I was. In fact, there were maybe two girls in my classes in grade school…
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True Thoughts On Moving as a Military Child

True Thoughts On Moving as a Military Child

Being in the military sounds exciting. Moving to different places, making new friends, and experiencing different things. But it’s also hard.  That's me on the right side waving at my dad's ship when I was 4. I’ve been to 6 different schools throughout my life. That means 6 different friend groups. Getting closer with your friends and knowing you’re leaving them in a few months is so upsetting. Sometimes I sit in my room and just remember all the happy memories we had together. It’s all sad because most of the time I drift away from those friends. I’m more…
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So You Are Brand New to the Military? Now What???

So You Are Brand New to the Military? Now What???

So you are new to the military. You’ve just said “I do” and now you are off to some new place you’ve probably never heard of or maybe have never been to before. Now what?   Or perhaps you are like me and have a spouse who joined well into adulthood. You’ve had your life, gone to school, had some kiddos, and even had a job or two. How are you going to adjust to now having most big decisions made by a giant third party? How will you fit in?   First, storytime.  My husband joined the Army when we were both in our mid-20s. We…
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