A Conversation About PCSing With Kids and Pets

A Conversation About PCSing With Kids and Pets

THEE Conversation Starters of MilSpouse Conversations had a REAL conversation about their experience PCSing with kids and pets. This diverse panel of military spouses bring their PCSing experiences to the table from PCSing while pregnant to preparing for an OCONUS move while leaving their college-age child behind. And oh, we can't forget about surviving a DITY with a crying toddler who didn't want the sun to follow him. 🤣 Is there one way to PCS? No Where do I even begin to prepare for my upcoming PCS? Your reason for staying or moving with your military member is a personal…
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How To Be The Perfect Military Spouse

How To Be The Perfect Military Spouse

Being a perfect military spouse isn't about knowing every acronym associated with the military or recognizing every insignia on a military member's uniform. It isn't even about volunteering, attending or participating in every function for your spouse's command. But being the PERFECT Military Spouse is about YOU and your military member. Thee Conversation Starters share some of their best tips to help you. Don't forget about YOU Being the PERFECT anything is like beauty. It's all in the eye of the beholder. But throughout my 20 years as a military spouse, these tips have served me and my family well.…
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Can You Be a Perfect Military Spouse?

Can You Be a Perfect Military Spouse?

The military spouse. Who married into the military whether before, during, or after the time of service, and is expected to support their service member through thick and thin. They will be expected to put their lives on hold, take care of their homes and children, if there are any, and know exactly how to put out all the fires that will undoubtedly occur when their service member is gone. They are the ultimate multi-taskers, having mastered the ability to overcome any obstacles thrown their way.   So how can you be a perfect military spouse?  Short answer: You can’t, or can YOU,…
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A Stress-Free Holiday for the Military Spouse

A Stress-Free Holiday for the Military Spouse

The holidays. They are a time for coming together and giving thanks for all the blessings we have. They are a time for us to gather with family and friends and share in the many traditions that accompany this magical time of year. But what happens when the point of it all gets lost in the stress and the chaos that often comes before the celebrations? When we lose ourselves and the meaning of the holidays because of this impossible expectation for everything to be perfect?  As military spouses, the holidays often mean either going back home to spend time…
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Where Are You Originally From?

Where Are You Originally From?

Where are you originally from? I have been asked many times by the non-hispanic community, “Where are you originally from?” If I answer with a state I am quickly interrupted by, “No, ORIGINALLY like what country are you from?” If you can picture the attitude-driven phrase “excuse me” as a facial expression, that’s exactly what my face looked like. I of course respond with, “The United States just like you.” It baffles me anytime I am asked that question and it turns out by one look people either assume I am from Mexico or am Native American. Personally, I think…
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So You Are Brand New to the Military? Now What???

So You Are Brand New to the Military? Now What???

So you are new to the military. You’ve just said “I do” and now you are off to some new place you’ve probably never heard of or maybe have never been to before. Now what?   Or perhaps you are like me and have a spouse who joined well into adulthood. You’ve had your life, gone to school, had some kiddos, and even had a job or two. How are you going to adjust to now having most big decisions made by a giant third party? How will you fit in?   First, storytime.  My husband joined the Army when we were both in our mid-20s. We…
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How You Can Nurture Your Military Spouse Relationships

How You Can Nurture Your Military Spouse Relationships

Military life can be hard and requires a lot of sacrifices. Military life forces you to be independent. To be able to handle many of life’s curveballs without the typical support system that many of our non-military affiliated peers enjoy. Having a support system is absolutely life and marriage-saving, especially when there’s a third party calling the shots, instead of you and your spouse. This unique kind of isolation has the potential to lead to desolation which is why it is so important to put people around you who both understand this lifestyle and can support you as you navigate…
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What Self-Care Means To Me

What Self-Care Means To Me

Self-care can mean many different things to many different people. So, let's unpack this term. Self-care, to me, is: taking time for myselfto be myselfto care for myself Taking care of MYself has many aspects: personalspiritualprofessionalphysicalemotionaland psychological Each of these aspects of self-care requires time by yourself to figure out what serves you and what the best version of yourself looks like. In your personal realm, learn who you are, what you want in life, and plan your personal goals from there. In your spiritual realm, take time to self-reflect using prayer or meditation. Really dig deep to your core…
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5 Tips For Spending the Holidays Away From Family

5 Tips For Spending the Holidays Away From Family

With the holiday season ahead of us once again, you are probably making your plans. Many will be traveling, either back home, or to the in-law’s place. But many people either choose to stay home or are unable to travel back home to spend the holidays with family. This can be hard. You may have grown up always going to grandma’s house for the holidays, or you normally switch off between you and your spouse’s family, and this happens to be your year. However, this year, you need to stay home. Maybe your spouse is deployed and the idea of…
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What to Cook When The Cook Deploys

What to Cook When The Cook Deploys

I do not like to cook. I know a lot of military spouses love it but I have never been able to get on board. I try, but I feel like I fail so many times. My husband is the main cook of the family. He doesn’t mind cooking and this arrangement works well for us. However, my husband is also in the military.  So what’s a girl to do when she hates cooking and her husband deploys or is away for any type of military training? I can’t just feed my kids pizza every night...can I? I think it…
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